Del Mar Women

Aleks 

There are women who make life feel softer simply by the way they move through it. Women who lead with warmth, who gather people around them instinctively, and who create homes, friendships and lives built on care.

Aleks is one of those women.

In our first edition of Del Mar Women, we spoke with Aleks about love, grief, family, friendship, motherhood, personal evolution and the quiet confidence that comes with growing into yourself over time.

For Aleks, everything begins and ends with love.

Where in the world do you feel most like yourself?

“At home with my family, and with my closest friends,” Aleks says.

“These are the moments and places where I feel truly known — where my love and my intentions are seen for exactly what they are.”

Love, she explains, has always been the thing that fills her soul.

“I remember being asked at a seminar once to rank values like power, wealth, health, success, certainty… and without hesitation, I placed love above all of them.”

“I love to love. I love love. I always have.”

It is a simple statement, but one that seems to shape every part of how she lives. 

What has shaped you most? Not just as a woman, but in how you live your life?

Aleks speaks openly about losing her mother at a young age.

“It had always just been the two of us,” she says. “She was all the love I had ever known.”

With no siblings or extended family nearby, grief reshaped everything.

“When she passed, I felt my world crumble.”

But within that loss came clarity too — a deeper trust in herself and in the life she wanted to create.

“I discovered a depth of strength I had always sensed within me but finally chose to trust.”

That turning point ultimately led her toward building a life and family of her own with her now-husband.

“That is how I live now — leading with love and understanding. Always.”

What does building something of your own mean to you?

For Aleks, the answer is immediate.

“My family.”

As an only child raised by a single mother, she grew up fascinated by large families and the closeness she saw in others.

“Family became my everything. It is my why. It is the reason I get up in the morning.”

Motherhood, she says, expanded her.

“It has required me to grow into the most selfless version of myself.”

“I am still the same person at my core, but now I am responsible for these little beings who rely on me for guidance, courage, protection, nourishment — of both their bodies and their minds.”

“It is not a role I take lightly.”

“That is my purpose. That is my truth in living.”                                               

How do you balance caring for others while still building a life that feels like your own?

“Honestly,” she laughs, “I’m not sure there is a balance.”

Aleks has been fortunate to work alongside her husband and largely from home — something she deeply values.

“My family is where all of my energy and intention lives.”

But more than anything, she credits partnership.

“So much comes down to having the right person beside you. Someone who sees all of you — your strengths, your weaknesses, your messiness and your magic — and not only loves you for it but celebrates and champions you.”

“That is everything.”

And, she says, that kind of love only works through reciprocity.

“To receive that kind of love, you have to give it too — wholeheartedly, consistently, and without condition.”

Outside of family life, Aleks also pours herself into her community group, something she describes as a genuine source of joy.

“I’ve always been a girls’ girl,” she says.

“One of my friends once told me I have an inbuilt PR system. I love championing people, bringing women together, advocating for all the wonderful things I see in others.”

Everything, she explains, comes back to the same core instinct:
“Staying true to what matters most and letting everything else become a beautiful extension of that.”

How has your sense of style evolved over time?

“I’ve actually felt at ease in every era,” Aleks says.

“In my twenties I lived in microskirts,” she laughs. “I worked in fashion retail at the time and genuinely loved them.”

She still owns an old Kookai skirt from those years — now repurposed as a beach cover-up over swimwear.

“So perhaps not that much has changed,” she says jokingly.

What has shifted is her relationship with colour and simplicity.

“I used to wear a lot more colour. I still enjoy it, but now I’m much more drawn to neutral, sleek, timeless pieces.”

“Simple and considered.”

She references women like Rosie Huntington-Whiteley and Victoria Beckham as style inspirations — women whose style feels understated yet quietly powerful.

“That quiet confidence, that understated elegance.”

And perhaps that is the thread running through Aleks herself too: a woman entirely at ease with who she is becoming.

“I’m enjoying every season of my life,” she says.

“And I think that shows in how I dress too.”